Quotes & Sayings


• The only way to truly defeat an enemy is to turn him into a friend.

• All behaviour makes sense.

• Shift judgement to curiosity.

• In a conflict, each person feels hit first.

• What we don't say controls us.

• All that is not given is lost.

• Awareness is the first step towards change.

• Resistance is an unmet need.

• A hero is a self-righteous villain; a villain, a misunderstood hero.

• A villain is an unhealed victim.

• A hero is a victim with a gun (or a good lawyer).

• There are no difficult people, only people we have difficulty with.

• Before I criticize someone, I like to walk a mile in their shoes.That way, if they get mad,   they're barefoot and a long way away.

• Broken bones well set mend stronger.

• A conclusion is simply a place where you stopped being creative.

• Holding resentment is like drinking poison and waiting for your enemy to die.


"He who blames others has a long way to go on his journey. He who blames himself is halfway there. He who blames no one has arrived."
— Chinese proverb

Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space lies our freedom and power to choose our response. In those choices lie our growth and our happiness.
— Stephen Covey, The 8th Habit

It pays to know the enemy - not least because at some time you may have the opportunity to turn him into a friend.
— Margaret Thatcher

Don't speak unless you can improve on the silence.
— Spanish Proverb

Not the fastest horse can catch a word spoken in anger.
— Chinese Proverb

What I began to learn that day is that I seldom have enough data to play God, to pass judgment on someone else. When I get the whole story, or when I get more information, I find that my judgment decreases. I may not always like what I learn about another person, but invariably, my increased understanding makes a cooperative relationship much more likely.
— Dr. Alan Zimmerman

All sorrows can be borne, if you put them into a story or tell a story about them.
— Isak Dinesen

There are no problems we cannot solve together, and very few we can solve by ourselves.
— Lyndon Johnson

The quieter you became the more you can hear.
— Baba Ram Das

Every war when it comes, or before it comes, is represented not as a war but as an act of self-defense against a homicidal maniac.
— George Orwell

Seek first to understand, then to be understood.
— Stephen Covey

Give everyone their "one minute".
— Danaan Parry

You can't shake hands with a fist.
— Indira Ghandi

In the midst of conflict, there is absolutely nothing that produces gains as dramatically as listening.
— Dr. Neil Warren

The second word makes the quarrel
— Japanese proverb

"What mighty contests rise from trivial things."
— Alexander Pope, "The Rape of the Lock" 1720

Say not "I have found truth" but rather "I have found a truth".
— Kahlil Gibran

There is no situation so bad that getting angry can't make it worse.
— Anonymous

Greetings! I am pleased to see that we are different. May we together become greater than the sum of both of us.
— Vulcan greeting from Star Trek

Although feelings are not supposed to intrude on business discussions, they do anyway - we just disguise them as logic.
— Edward DeBono

Out beyond all the ideas of rightdoing and wrongdoing there is a field. I'll meet you there.
— Rumi

We are lonesome animals. We spend all of our life trying to be less lonesome. One of our ancient methods is to tell a story begging the listener to say - and to feel - 'Yes, that is the way it is, or at least that is the way I feel it. You're not as alone as you thought.
— John Steinbeck

When your fear touches someone’s pain it becomes pity; when your love touches someone’s pain, it becomes compassion.
— Stephen Levine

So why is it so hard for us to conceive of or accept that everybody...[is a spiritual being at their core]? As we have seen, beings have all these adventitious emotions that are not their nature, but that are nevertheless a temporary manifestation. The problem is that this is the first thing that we see in others, and so we think ‘That’s it; that’s what’s real,’ without looking at what’s behind that. I would call it, ‘Emotion at first sight.’
— Khyentse Rinpoche